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]]> By: purplecar http://dadomatic.com/5-ways-to-get-more-sex-from-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3027 purplecar Mon, 22 Jun 2009 14:17:37 +0000 http://dadomatic.com/?p=2371#comment-3027 Gio, I am guessing this is your first child. All the dads reading your comment right now are wincing with memories of this very typical baby-induced dry spell. You should talk to some other, older dads with more experience. They'll probably tell you that this kind of thing is par for the course. Sorry to say, but as women sometimes our body images whilst pregnant suffer greatly, especially in the last few months of pregnancy. That may account for that no-action 3rd-trimester. After giving birth, husbands should allow for at least 6 weeks - 2 months recovery time before getting back in the saddle. After that, it can take up to 6 or more months for the baby to sleep through the night. The lack of sleep is torturous, and I'll speak for all moms here when I say: new babies make us too tired to take care of/have sex with you. Your wife's libido will probably come back slowly. In the meantime, make sure your wife is well-rested. Are you taking some of the feedings? Your wife can pump her breast milk and you can feed the baby a bottle at 6 months. Most importantly, have a talk with your wife. Speak honestly and without accusation. If your wife doesn't want to talk and is withdrawing from you and other life interests, speak with some other fathers you trust. If you and your friends are truly alarmed at your wife's withdrawal, check out the symptoms of Postpartum Depression. Here is the wikipedia article: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Postpartum_depression and this support site: http://postpartum.net/ . Good Luck. -PC Gio, I am guessing this is your first child. All the dads reading your comment right now are wincing with memories of this very typical baby-induced dry spell. You should talk to some other, older dads with more experience. They’ll probably tell you that this kind of thing is par for the course.

Sorry to say, but as women sometimes our body images whilst pregnant suffer greatly, especially in the last few months of pregnancy. That may account for that no-action 3rd-trimester. After giving birth, husbands should allow for at least 6 weeks – 2 months recovery time before getting back in the saddle. After that, it can take up to 6 or more months for the baby to sleep through the night. The lack of sleep is torturous, and I’ll speak for all moms here when I say: new babies make us too tired to take care of/have sex with you.

Your wife’s libido will probably come back slowly. In the meantime, make sure your wife is well-rested. Are you taking some of the feedings? Your wife can pump her breast milk and you can feed the baby a bottle at 6 months.

Most importantly, have a talk with your wife. Speak honestly and without accusation. If your wife doesn’t want to talk and is withdrawing from you and other life interests, speak with some other fathers you trust. If you and your friends are truly alarmed at your wife’s withdrawal, check out the symptoms of Postpartum Depression. Here is the wikipedia article: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Postpartum_depression and this support site: http://postpartum.net/ .

Good Luck. -PC

]]> By: Gio http://dadomatic.com/5-ways-to-get-more-sex-from-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3022 Gio Sun, 21 Jun 2009 02:20:33 +0000 http://dadomatic.com/?p=2371#comment-3022 Good ideas but what if your wife won't let you get a babysitter. She won't try fantasies, I'm in crazy good shape, and I clean the house all by myself every week. I havn't had sex with her for 8 months.. She had a baby 6 months ago.... I can't live like this Good ideas but what if your wife won’t let you get a babysitter. She won’t try fantasies, I’m in crazy good shape, and I clean the house all by myself every week. I havn’t had sex with her for 8 months.. She had a baby 6 months ago…. I can’t live like this

]]> By: Whitney http://dadomatic.com/5-ways-to-get-more-sex-from-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-2766 Whitney Sat, 09 May 2009 14:07:14 +0000 http://dadomatic.com/?p=2371#comment-2766 Great Post! I would only add that foreplay happens long before the bedroom- things like helping to make sure all the forms are signed, lunches made, and the other things that hit moms as "Oh my god, I forgot to" in quiet moments will go a long way as well. Also, consider taking a weekend away, just the two of you, or maybe even a whole week, if you can, without the kids. I just got back from a great holiday with my husband, and it was about having fun and connecting as a couple. We didn't have to worry about being interrupted, we didn't have to worry about anything rather than where we wanted to eat or grab a coffee- and that ability to just be with each other and enjoy ourselves like we did before we had kids was worth every cent spent on it. Great Post! I would only add that foreplay happens long before the bedroom- things like helping to make sure all the forms are signed, lunches made, and the other things that hit moms as “Oh my god, I forgot to” in quiet moments will go a long way as well. Also, consider taking a weekend away, just the two of you, or maybe even a whole week, if you can, without the kids. I just got back from a great holiday with my husband, and it was about having fun and connecting as a couple. We didn't have to worry about being interrupted, we didn't have to worry about anything rather than where we wanted to eat or grab a coffee- and that ability to just be with each other and enjoy ourselves like we did before we had kids was worth every cent spent on it.

]]> By: PurpleCar http://dadomatic.com/5-ways-to-get-more-sex-from-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-2762 PurpleCar Sat, 09 May 2009 02:18:16 +0000 http://dadomatic.com/?p=2371#comment-2762 Amen, Brother! Amen, Brother!

]]> By: tojosan http://dadomatic.com/5-ways-to-get-more-sex-from-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-2761 tojosan Sat, 09 May 2009 01:16:45 +0000 http://dadomatic.com/?p=2371#comment-2761 #5 doesn't have to be boring. Talk about and tease about sex long before you get to the bedroom. If you're not making google eyes or catching a squeeze now and then, you aren't stirring the pot enough.<br><br>I'm not saying go all PDA madness on us, but be affectionate before you're ready for the roll in the hay. #5 doesn't have to be boring. Talk about and tease about sex long before you get to the bedroom. If you're not making google eyes or catching a squeeze now and then, you aren't stirring the pot enough.

I'm not saying go all PDA madness on us, but be affectionate before you're ready for the roll in the hay.

]]> By: PurpleCar http://dadomatic.com/5-ways-to-get-more-sex-from-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-2760 PurpleCar Sat, 09 May 2009 00:01:24 +0000 http://dadomatic.com/?p=2371#comment-2760 Thanks Bill & Zen Mom! Seems like I gotta state the obvious, but you know, whatever works! :) Thanks Bill & Zen Mom! Seems like I gotta state the obvious, but you know, whatever works! :)

]]> By: ZenMom http://dadomatic.com/5-ways-to-get-more-sex-from-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-2759 ZenMom Fri, 08 May 2009 22:52:34 +0000 http://dadomatic.com/?p=2371#comment-2759 It's funny, 'cuz it's true. <br><br>Actually, this was quite brilliant. I'm emailing it to my husband. And several of my girlfriends. :) It's funny, 'cuz it's true.

Actually, this was quite brilliant. I'm emailing it to my husband. And several of my girlfriends. :)

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://dadomatic.com/5-ways-to-get-more-sex-from-your-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-2758 Bill Cammack Fri, 08 May 2009 22:22:06 +0000 http://dadomatic.com/?p=2371#comment-2758 Good calls, Chris. #3 is really important, because guys don't know how draining it is for chicks to have to have the kids around them 24/7. Get your woman a break from the monotony and it'll pay off when she's able to kick back, relax and focus on YOU instead of the kids. Good calls, Chris. #3 is really important, because guys don't know how draining it is for chicks to have to have the kids around them 24/7. Get your woman a break from the monotony and it'll pay off when she's able to kick back, relax and focus on YOU instead of the kids.

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