The fear does come with the hope, and we choose on which side we focus. Be prepared for problems, but savor the good times.

We’ve had a couple of friends do a similar thing. But also, we’ve got friends who are just now starting to have their kids. I feel a lot more viable with four kids being able to dispense a little advice.

Which usually boils down to:

“Contentment in the chaos is a great thing to learn.”

I’m a christian. My whole life system revolves around the Almighty, my belief in His Sovereignty. And ultimately, that’s how I deal with the fears of fatherhood.

When my imagination goes overboard, when I see terrible things on the media. Whenever they’re not around and I start thinking too much.

There is no way for me to be their perfect protector. I can’t be there all the time, and as a now-non-stereo-typical family where my better half has committed herself to be a full-time home mum, I’m the guy going to work for most of the day.

We’re very blessed. We’ve had a few medical problems with the kids, but nothing to complain about. Our kids are all so very awesome. They’re learning how to relate, how to say sorry, how to hug and laugh and work hard at being a family.

And there’s a lot more to come. I’m a big bear of a man, so I can’t wait till the daughters are sixteen and I’m meeting the guys they “like”. Ha ha. Can you say scary much. Or wrestling my sons and having them beat me. Cannot wait. I look forward to every step.

There’s much fear. But there’s also much hope. And again, for me personally, it’s because I rest in the Sovereignty of the Almighty.