This is the second in a new series of posts about living a healthier based on my wife and my experiences this past year. The first post, Work In Progress, shared my favorite tip. Today I’d like to share a secret, you can have dessert.

You Can Have Ice Cream.

Lots of people lose their focus on their health because they still love ice cream. That’s what they think anyway. The truth is that many families that are generally healthy and trim enjoy a good dessert now and then.

A big part of my wife’s success this past year hasn’t been that she gave up ice cream, or other desserts. It’s that she’s not beating herself up that she still enjoys those things. But isn’t ice cream a diet killer. I know that’s what you’re asking. The answer is no.

The key to being able to have ice cream or that piece of cheese cake is twofold. First off it’s about not just ignoring that craving, but planning on satisfying it.

Many moms and dads feel that if they have ice cream or cake that they’ll blow their diet. Because of this they often go cold turkey on those things, and sadly, bring their kids along for the no frills ride. A growing group though, our family included, has begun to not only include those desserts on occasion but plan to have them.

Now planning doesn’t mean you stock up the fridge with 10 gallons of your favorite chocolate overload brand ice cream. Planning means that you pick a day for that indulgence. Make Saturday party night and stop at your favorite ice cream parlor. Focus not on the not having but on the fun of that evening. For us this has been a good way to anticipate going out with friends is the chance to try a new dessert together.

A second part beyond planning for these delectable tidbits is realizing that it’s normal. Whether it’s your upbringing, your genes, your clan, or your religion, you love a good sweet now and then. Honestly, a little sweet stuff doesn’t hurt most folks. People all over the world enjoy a bit of sugar now and then, your doctor and dietician included. So get over the guilt!

So what’s your favorite dessert? Is it ice cream? Cheesecake? Chocolate cake?

Don’t deny yourself; own that craving, bend it to your will, and plan for it.

Besides, your kids will thank you later. 😉