A few weeks ago I wrote about “5 Things You Should Never Say To Your Kids” and there were some great comments and discussion that followed the post. Â Thank YOU for chiming in. Â In the spirit of countering the negative with the positive, I thought I would follow up with a few things that we should say to our kids, and say them as often as possible. Â A parent’s words are powerful weapons when aimed at our kids, so let’s use those weapons for good. Â With that in mind (and to remind myself), here are:
5 Things You SHOULD Say To Your Kids
1. “Yes.” – When your child says “come here a minute,” say YES. Â When your kid says “can you help me?” say YES. Â When your youngster says “can I try that?” say YES. Â When your first inclination is to say “in a minute” or “not now” or “maybe later” or “I am busy” or “I can’t right now” fight the urge and say YES instead. Â Stop what you are doing and give your undivided attention to your child. There will come a time when they may stop asking and you will have missed the chance to say YES more often. (Trust me on this one!)
2. “That was really good.” – We all need confidence and self-esteem to be happy and successful and as parents we are in the position to heap plenty of praise on our kids. Â We have the power to find something positive in virtually everything our kids may do. Â Find the good, and focus your praise on it, as often as you can. Â Praise is a great way to raise your child’s confidence and self-image, and focusing on the positive feels so much better.
3. “How are you?” – A simple question that can go a long way if you mean it when you ask it, and listen… really listen, when it is answered. Â HINT: This is a good tip for dealing with the adults in your life as well.
4. Â “I am proud of you.” – Our kids naturally seek our approval, and letting them know that we are proud of them makes you feel as good as it makes them feel. Â Showing your pride for your kids is also a great way to brag about them to others without being obnoxious. Â It is great to tell someone else how proud of your child you are, especially when you do it in front of your child.
5. “I love you.” – I know I have written about this before, but “Love” is the one four letter word you can never get in trouble for saying it to your kids. Â Sure, your kids know that you love them, more than anything… more than words can easily express. Â Even so, nothing beats looking them in the eye and telling them, straight up. Â “I love you” are the three words a child cherishes from their parents. Â Don’t make them wait for it. Â Say it a lot. Â They will know you mean it…
Do you agree with these five things? Â What did I leave out? Â Please add more things we should say to our kids in the comments.
?Jeff Sass is the proud dad of ZEO (Zach, 21, Ethan, 19 and Olivia, 18). Â He is also a seasoned entertainment and technology exec and active social media enthusiast. Â You can see more of Jeffâ€™s writing atÂ Sassholes!andÂ Social Networking Rehab and you can listen to Jeff on theÂ Cast of Dads podcast.
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